Rita Edochie’s views on married men maintaining close friendships with female friends or exes highlight a common topic in relationships, especially in the context of marital boundaries and loyalty. By emphasizing that a wife should be a man’s closest female confidant, she argues that connections with exes or female “besties” can blur boundaries and potentially harm the marriage.
In her message, Edochie speaks directly to married men, urging them to consider the emotional toll on their wives if they keep such ties. She suggests that allowing exes or female friends into intimate parts of a married life, like visiting the home or sharing private moments, can cross a line and create room for misunderstandings. She also has a word of caution for single women who maintain close ties with married men, suggesting that such relationships could easily be misconstrued or misused as side relationships rather than simple friendships.
Rita Edochie encouraged married men to establish boundaries and focus solely on their wives, moving on fully from previous relationships.
In her Instagram post, Edochie expressed her thoughts in pidgin, writing, “The next thing now una go begin tok second wife matter. As a married man, you are busy keeping female besties. Your ex for that matter, if I talk now una go say Ijele you dey worry. Imagine going back to your vomit, if you love and value your relationship with your ex a lot, why didn’t you end up with her?
“Why drop her? Call her your ex, marry an entirely different woman. Then go back to relate with that same ex while still married to your wife? Edochie said.
“Have you thought about the mental and emotional stress it imposes on the women you lawfully wed? Hmmmmm. Just hmmm.
“Goat and yam no dey stay together simple. This was how that other one came in with the colleague and bestie format, why have a woman as your bestie or personal assistant? Listen as a married man, your only female bestie should be your wife.
“All these single ladies claiming besties to married men, all of una be side chicks to that man, you can’t be with him, locked up alone in one room and not do one or two, nothing person wan tell me biko.
“Stop deceiving yourselves, when she becomes your ex, move on and focus on your wife.
Through her no-nonsense advice, Edochie advocates for loyalty to one’s spouse and a clear separation from past relationships, promoting marital harmony and mutual respect between partners.
“Imagine your ex visiting your matrimonial home to cook for you as a married man. haba na ment? Ndi ala, I am so angry right now.”
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